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Blog of the Month - Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse can sometimes be difficult to identify, especially in the early stages, but it can have devastating consequences on both an individual's physical and mental health. Below are some characteristics of emotional abuse to make pinpointing it easier:

  • Quick commitments to relationships
  • Isolating (starting to distance the person from loved ones, friends and work colleagues)
  • Extremely possessive and jealous, this is confused with love ("he/she is only behaving in such a manner because he/she loves me so much)
  • Control of all money
  • Name-calling, constantly criticizing or belittling you
  • Cruelty to animals and/or children
  • Takes away choices such as food, fashion, social life
  • Threats against one's family, children or threats of suicide for failure to comply
  • Dominating of time
  • Excessive monitoring
  • Chauvinistic
  • Blames the victim ("you made me do it")
  • Claims you are responsible for his/her emotional state
  • Extreme sense of entitlement
  • Insecure but presents with a false sense of superiority
  • Lack of empathy
  • Extreme controlling behaviour, disguised as a concern for one's safety
  • Poor communication skills
  • Unrealistic expectations or demands
  • Jekyll and Hyde personalities (extremely loving on one hand and excessively controlling and angry on the other)
  • Family and/or friends have warned you about the person or stated that they are concerned about your safety.
  • Fear of how he/she will react to things you do or say
  • You have difficulty in ending the relationship, even though you know it is the right thing to do
  • The person has a history of bad relationships
  • They are violent and/or loses their temper quickly

Next Article - the impact of emotional abuse and how to break the cycle of violence

 


 

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 Warning Signs of an Abuser: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7vvzfYWdDo0